Tips to help you deal with your kids’ negative behaviour
Deal kids negative behaviour in positive way will bring positive energy in them. Most of the parents share their concerns regarding their kids changing behaviour. I have personal experience to share with you which can be beneficial for every parent.
- Spend time with your kid specially one-on-one:
When you were kid, what basically you wanted from your parents is time. Spending time with the kids will bring the best in them.
If kids don’t have the positive attention, they will seek out attention in negative ways, and consequences and other discipline methods won’t work.
Schedule 10-15 minutes a day per child and you’ll see measurable improvement almost immediately.
- See that your kid is sleeping well.
Sleep is a human’s physical as well as psychological need. You have to get serous if your kid is not sleeping well.
Need of sleep for a toddlers is higher than teens and similarly that of teens are higher than younger kids.
You need to consult the physician if your kid is not sleeping well. A well-rested kid is a well-behaed kid who can function better throughout the day including school.
- Isolate your children when you are very angry.
When you have anger in your mind and you want to spank your kid. Isolate them to safer place. Spanking or slapping is never a better approach. Think how differnetly you can teach your kid without any punishment. Next day sit with your kid and talk to them like you are helping them.
- Avoid saying No?
Just say no – to saying no. Kids barrage us with questions everyday, and more often than not, our answer is “no,” and kids resent it. Find opportunities to say “yes” when you can. Like for instance your kid asking for icecream which is not good for the health. You can say like, “I know you like ice cream, but eating too much is not good.”
- Lead by Example by staying positive and happy always: Be the example you want your kids to see. Think about how your kids might describe you to their friends –
would they say you’re fun and lighthearted, or that you’re stressed and bossy? Try changing your energy by simply smiling more. It will help you keep calmer in times of stress, and your kids will notice and keep their behavior more positive, too.
- See what causes your kid to behave bad: Misbehavior is always a symptom of a deeper issue, and when we can find what causes it,
we can use the right strategies to correct it. If Aisha keeps dumping toys all over your desk, is she upset that you haven’t been able to give her time? Is John throwing a fit over having the blue plate because he really wanted to make a choice? Stay calm and ask yourself what might be causing it.
- Make a routine for you kids. You kids undoubtely will improve with a defined routine. Set the routines of your kid for the most challenging times of the day, like mornings, after school, mealtimes and bedtimes. Also give your kids choice and help them decide how the routine will go (do we get dressed or brush teeth first? How can you help get dinner ready?) For younger kids, write out the order of the routine using pictures or words and let them decorate it, then hang it where they’ll see it every day. Then stick to it.
- Teach your kid that they should play their part for better household. It’s not only your parent’s resposibility but kids need to understand that they need to play their part to make a household run smoothly. All kids, from toddlers to teens, should have “family contributions” (not “chores!”) they do daily – this helps bring your family closer together, teaches them life skills and works to prevent the entitlement epidemic.